I’m renting an apartment in a small college town in college housing (menomonie, wi) & my roommates are complete strangers in their 30’s and 40’s. I expected them to be closer to my age since it is college housing. They are all very nice and I have had no issues with any of them. A little over a month ago, one of their boyfriends moved in & is now sharing a room with the girlfriend. Our landlord doesn’t know. He did sign a lease for next year but he has a very long criminal record and didn’t pass the background check so his lease was terminated.
Meanwhile, he’s still secretly living in my apartment with his girlfriend. I’m 20 & this is my first apartment… I don’t really feel comfortable living with a criminal that’s not even supposed to be living here. He told my landlord that he’s moving out west & that he’s “dying”. He wrote me a passive aggressive note saying he’s a changed person and it’s strange no one else had to have a background check and that the next tenant will be “worse than him”. I’m not quite sure how to get him out of my apartment without causing issues with my roommate or him (his criminal record makes me nervous… he’s got multiple assault charges)
Also:
-his mail is getting delivered to my house
-he doesn’t have a car so he’s constantly using my roommate’s car so she can’t go anywhere
-my landlord can’t “catch him” because he’s always conveniently gone when she comes over
-it’s in our lease that we can’t have guests over for more than 7 consecutive days
-my landlord specifically told him he can’t live here and told the girlfriend to limit his time here because of his record
-I’m worried he’ll try to throw my boyfriend under the bus and try to spin it back on him & say he lives with me too… he has two separate leases to prove he has his own house but he’s just over quite a bit during the day
My roommates are strangers and one of thier boyfriend moved in
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Keep that note from he criminal as proof of manipulation. Your roommate is being taken I would limit you BF visits there for awhile so he can’t be thrown under the bus. I personally would have a private convo with the landlord. She would be thankful so she wouldn’t say any info came from you. Tell her you don’t want to be evicted because of your clueless roommate, he is probably manipulating her too.
Maybe landlord would get restraining order against the guy so he can’t be around there at all. I remember how exhausting roommates can be Good Luck! I’m sure others on here will give you advice from their experience with this tomorrow.
she may feel safer with her boyfriend there while the creep is there.
You’ll need to talk privately to the landlord. Ask not to let on you said anything, due to your safety. You could mention, due to not feeling safe around this guy, you’ve been having your boyfriend over more often than you prefer and ideally you want it to just be you & her (or you & another female) there so you can focus on your studies. Ask if there’s anyway you can assist the landlord.
In my opinion, they both (her & him) needs to be evicted.
Eve Page good point!
Tell the landlord and refuse to sign or agree to the addendum to add him to the lease
This is probably a conversation you need to have privately with your landlord. Figure out when he is there and let them know. Ask them not to say anything about you bringing this up. If there are any issues or you are threatened, call law enforcement and ask for information on him being trespassed and/or a restraining order. Does his girlfriend feel threatened by him?
Ultimately the girlfriend could end up getting evicted for breaking the lease by allowing him to stay there.
I’m not sure how she is feeling. I don’t see her that often because of our age difference & work schedules. I definitely feel like she’s being taken advantage of. He takes her car at all hours of the day (he doesn’t have his own or a drivers license). She isn’t splitting our utilities with him even though he’s lived here for a month and a half .
I also don’t want to ask her or mention any suspicions to her in case she gets offended
Offending her is the least of your worries. What sort of record does he have? And how old?
late 30’s.. he has at least 6 full pages on the online court records. Assault, assault with a weapon, restraining orders, domestic abuse, etc…
yeah you need to speak up with your landlord. i am willing to bet he hasnt changed one bit.
Ask your landlord if they can move you.
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His mail should be enough for your landlord to have cause for your roommate violating the lease. Unfortunately, since you’re also on the lease, I’m not sure that you would be considered a Plaintiff or a Defendant. You need to think outside the box.