https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/ Tue, 24 May 2022 10:25:42 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.7.2 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-465 Tue, 24 May 2022 10:25:42 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-465 Have you considered the possibility that she has them no longer – disposed of them, as cruel as that sounds?

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-461 Tue, 24 May 2022 09:42:51 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-461 Not married he has the right to both ashes , file against her or go all the way over there with birth certificate of your husband and the two death certificates of your mom and brother you can get them in the county they died, present yourself with an officer and retrieve them, keep all texts acknowledging she has both and the one where she says she wants to keep both mother and son

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-459 Tue, 24 May 2022 09:07:15 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-459 I feel sympathy for you and hubby, I really do. That said, I call it like I see it. I don’t know if its just because you are posting in a legal forum, but IMHO your post seems way too focused on the legal rights and not focused enough on the emotional needs. Probs, when bf died, she loved him tons. She cares about what Mike (and maybe his mom) would have wanted. Try reaching out to her on the emotional level before the legal level. Write her a handwritten letter asking for the ashes back. And I’d suggest only asking for 1/2.

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-457 Tue, 24 May 2022 08:32:13 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-457 Nal. Have a lawyer right her a letter stating the legal status of who has rights to the ashes (your husband) and that if you wanted you could sue for mikes and his mother’s remains aswell as all Mike’s belongings. Have it say that you do not want it get the courts involved, but that you will if you have to and you are not just going away.

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-455 Tue, 24 May 2022 07:36:56 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-455 I’d be taking myself to Illinois and taking little Miss PITA to court.

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-452 Tue, 24 May 2022 07:06:02 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-452 Yeah I’d take both ashes from that selfish be-itch lol. That’s sad. SMH. Couldn’t even split them with you what a horrible person.

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-450 Tue, 24 May 2022 06:29:36 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-450 Good question, she might just be too embarrassed to admit losing them along the way.

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-446 Tue, 24 May 2022 05:42:48 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-446 Hate to ask this question but does she still have the ashes?

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-443 Tue, 24 May 2022 05:23:45 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-443 Was this just a verbal agreement?
I actually really want to know how this would go if it ended up in court because I have no idea. I don’t even know if ashes are considered human remains like bones are but not teeth when it comes to owning them.
My heart goes out though. I agree on asking to see of the ashes can be split. When my family ‘adopted’ a young adult who unfortunately was hit by a drunk driver. While he went little to no contact with them, they were kind enough to share him in the form of little locket/container necklaces with some of his ashes to split among his close friends and family who asked.

]]> https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-439 Tue, 24 May 2022 04:30:57 +0000 https://lawsbay.com/my-husband-paid-for-the-cremation-but-it-was-agreed-different/#comment-439 Maybe let her know that your husband has legal right to his mothers ashes as well as his brothers ashes if they aren’t married. Does she want to give up mom to keep her boyfriend??

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