Comments on: Final divorce hearing, His wife took off with their son

By: natoshfairholm

natoshfairholm — Sun, 22 May 2022 16:55:10 +0000

while Rory was with me this summer, she hooked up with some guy online. She would hide away through the night on the phone with him. When she left, he moves right in with her. He could be anything, abuser, child molester, we have zero idea and can’t know with her cutting us all out of Rory’s life.

By: annyezerskigilmor

annyezerskigilmor — Sun, 22 May 2022 16:26:23 +0000

See, this is the problem…everyone always sides with the mom. Turn it around…maybe the mom took off for nefarious reasons. You have no grounds for your assumption either, yet here you are defending her. Women use children to get back at men all the time, but you assume she’s got good reasons and he does not.

By: annyezerskigilmor

annyezerskigilmor — Sun, 22 May 2022 16:08:30 +0000

you have no grounds for that. Yes, the child needs her father but maybe mom took off for a good reason that his mother(OP) doesn’t even know about. This is the worst advice you could give when you know nothing at all about the case.

By: bethfertich

bethfertich — Sun, 22 May 2022 15:51:21 +0000

It’s a horrible situation for any child. And it’s mental and emotional abuse. The courts, at least here in Minnesota, don’t give a damn about the kids or Fathers.

By: natoshfairholm

natoshfairholm — Sun, 22 May 2022 15:15:59 +0000

I think that is what she is doing now. Rory is very sensitive emotionally due to her neglect while he was here. Rory stayed with me through the summer last year and he didn’t even want to call her. When she told him she missed him, he got quiet and didn’t respond. Same as when she told him she loves him. He is 7. A tender age

By: candaceweedman

candaceweedman — Sun, 22 May 2022 14:54:39 +0000

Go for full physical custody, and accept nothing less. My experience with my stepdaughter, the mom gets away with everything. My husband hadn’t seen his daughter since she was 12. Spent thousands of dollars on motions for contempt, all for the judge to dismiss. Even though we had police reports stating mom refused to turn over the child for visitation. We didn’t see her again until she was 19 and on her own. In that time, mom ruined their relationship by telling her lies, including “he doesn’t want anything to do with you”.

By: diannehillsbailey

diannehillsbailey — Sun, 22 May 2022 14:22:25 +0000

NAL. In most custody cases, it doesn’t look good to ask for full custody….but this is different. She booked it with the child and he was left hanging. It’s entirely reasonable to ask for full custody in this situation. On top of that, remind your son that he needs bargaining room. If he’s teetering on asking for joint, that means he’d be okay with getting joint custody. Asking for full means that even if the court decides to split the difference (if she even shows), he’ll still have a solution he can live with.
Also, in most divorces, if she was properly served, a judge will likely give him everything he asks for if she doesn’t show up. That’s happened to several people I know. Of course, that’s not guaranteed because the judge can always choose to do something different, but it is very common.

By: cathicosco

cathicosco — Sun, 22 May 2022 13:42:39 +0000

Strong chance the judge will order the child to be brought back. The issue will be is enforcing that ruling. It’s hard to do when someone leaves the state. You will have to find the child and manage to get your hands on the child. The police won’t do it for u but if u can get the child then the police will stop her from trying to take him from u. They will come and tell her no and that she has to talk to the judge about it. Judges don’t like it when a parent refuses to come to hearings involving a child or respond to anything. That’s a fast way to lose custody. It won’t mean he will have custody permanently tho. She can win custody back again

By: natoshfairholm

natoshfairholm — Sun, 22 May 2022 13:16:09 +0000

Kevin has asked for full custody but is teetering to ask for joint.

By: annyezerskigilmor

annyezerskigilmor — Sun, 22 May 2022 12:20:45 +0000

Did you file for full legal and residential custody in this?